Xmas are approaching! Isn’t that time to celebrate? Not for just anyone. If you are single fearing appearing alone during the holidays, ones might want the festivities to make sure you pass as quickly as possible. “No time period of the year might be consequently dark, uncomfortable and annoying”, you tell yourself”; “If only I had someone to become with, things would have been different”, you whisper to yourself time and again.
The secret to doing so is developing Self-Awareness: getting to understand why you are not able to develop a successful closeness so far; what made most people fail in your relationships until now. Is it really so that you simply didn’t come across partners who were good enough for you? Is it genuinely so that there were “external conditions” which made it impossible so you might develop and maintain a successful intimacy?
Or you might find out that you haven’t been successful selecting a partner until now not considering no “suitable” partner originated your way, but because you were over-afraid about developing a long-term serious relationship (for an individual reason or another); and that you are so needy and dependent on whomever you shut off with that they terminated their bond; or that you were thus controlling and demanding more and more of your dates just invalidated your attempts to getting finer and maybe even to relocating together.
What makes you think that between occasionally a miracle will happen and out-of-the-blue you will have a wonderful romance? If you have been failing during having a wonderful relationship until now, what are the odds that you will succeed in having one next 365 days?
Using the excursions to think these over can certainly help you understand the true reasons for ones failures. You might find, for example, there are patterns of behaviors of which repeat themselves throughout every one of your past-relationships which always caused conflicts between you plus your partners.
Using the holidays’ time to figure out what are the true factors that cause your inability to have a substantial, meaningful, satisfying intimacy, is known as a time well-spent. The skills you’ll gain will help you find a suitable partner with whom to develop and maintain a successful intimacy.
Could it really be that you just did all you could to look through partner with whom to cultivate a good relationship but didn’t have luck? Well, each one of can serve you as arguments and rationalizations to not getting good results. But is it really the lawsuit? Or could there come to be other reasons for your failed attempts? Could it be that something in you hinders and prevents you from using a successful relationship?
Use the excursions to figure out how not to get alone next year. You might think that such advice is usually ridiculous. Why to think about following year when this year’s holidays are approaching? Graphs simple: if you have been simple for a long time, what guarantee do you have that you will not be one next year as well?
The odds probably do not succeed in your favour! Therefore, it can be up to you to do something about your situation. Therefore, you may want to use a holidays this year to figure out learning to make a change for next 365 days! How can you use this year’s holiday seasons to become able to have a bond next year?